Monday, August 25, 2014

The Urban Sprawl

When I met Brian he lived at Morningside and it had this impossibly large lawn.  He was using an old school gas powered lawn mower that we had to take yearly for tune ups.  We used the same lawn mower at the Big House.  The front yard was small but it had the LONG side yard and a pretty decent size backyard.  But when we moved into the blue house, even including the yellow house, the yards just aren't that big.  The lawn mower had a last hurrah and died and we decided to go very old school and get a manual push mower.  Brian thought this was great because he grandfather had this kind of mower and it made virtually no noise and didn't need gas (or mixtures).  We get these like 14 inch sprigs that come up in the grass overnight, I think everyone here has them, and the push mower would just flatten them and they'd pop back up.  So then he started using the electric trimmer as a lawn mower and then Brian hurt his back (mostly from using the trimmer for an hour or so) and we were kind of stuck, something needed to change, you cannot mow 3 yards, however small, with a trimmer.

I did some research and decided that a battery mower was the way I wanted to go and upon further research I definitely wanted a lithium battery, they last longer and are easier to deal with.  The lithium decision made the mower pricier, so we waited until finances looked good and I got one on Amazon from the Warehouse Deals (I highly recommend this option when available, I've never had an issue, and you can save around 20% usually). 

We love this little lawn mower.  I've always been afraid of regular lawn mowers and the push mower was just frustrating to use, but this mower is very quiet (like a loud fan) and because it has a bag nothing ever flies out of it dangerously like a regular mower.  We like it so much we decided to ditch our electric trimmer and it's 100' cord (the reason I didn't buy a corded mower the cord is way more of a pain than you think it will be) and buy the trimmer that uses the same battery (also through the Amazon Warehouse Deal) and I didn't need another battery so I saved extra money.

I just can't express enough what a treat it was to mow the lawn yesterday with our new toys.  So if you're in the market, these I highly recommend.  I'm not compensated at all for this post, I just like to share things that I really like and hope I can help you guys out.

Black and Decker Cordless MowerBlack and Decker Cordless Trimmer

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Hypothetical Question

So let's say you decide to buy your 15 year old kid a brand new car.  And the car's just sort of sitting there waiting for the kid to turn 16.  And a relative says hey you're not using the car and I need a car, can I borrow the car until your kid turns 16.  Is this fair?  I mean, the fact that the car is brand new, and you paid extra to have a brand new car for your kid, and now someone's going to use the car and it won't be new anymore when you give it to your kid or does that not matter, should the important thing be that your relative needs a car, you have a car that you're not currently using, and you should help that relative out?  Certainly if the car was used you wouldn't care but the fact that it's new, you paid extra to have new car, and you bought it new on purpose to have something new to give your kid. 

What do you guys think?  Is it crazy?  How would you feel?

Monday, August 18, 2014

This Old House

We finally broke down last night and called the AC company.  Unfortunately we got the service guy who always complains about our unit and our house.  It's such a downer.  I can't help that our AC unit is next to the deck.  I can't help that our crawlspace is 20 inches tall (at best).  I know it's a nightmare, but it is what it is.

He's out there for like 5 minutes and comes in and says it's the return duct work.  Brian's all IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT IT COSTS and I'm like SHUT UP DUDE.  He's supposed to call later today and I didn't want to give Debby Downer my number so he could tell me it'll cost $800 to repair and I have to make that decision so poor Brian who has a jury trial tomorrow will get his call in the middle of all that.  I did not live up to my wifey duties, however, I can't deal with this guy.

This whole summer we've been debating whether the issue was the return (what I think because it won't suck up paper and hardly any dust or hair) or the ductwork (what Brian thinks because the air is weak, yet cold).

When the repair man leaves Brian said, "You said, 'I knew it!' when he said it was the return but it was the duct work."

And I said, "Yeah the duct work of the RETURN, so I was right."  Really, we were both right though I think Brian thinks he's right.  If he was so sure then we should have just called the handyman to repair the duct line, now we're already $89 (service call) invested in this guy jacking up the repair cost because he hates our house.  I thought it was going to be more than the duct work because we just had some duct work replaced at the beginning of the summer.  But we think it happened after that because the air was working ok for a while and then it's progressively gotten worse.

Luckily this summer has not been very hot but my power bill was almost twice what it was last year at this time (in units used) so it's still a pretty big issue that has to be resolved.  Today the heat index is supposed to be in the 100s, so that sucks.  Our bedroom is still nice and cool thanks to our window unit supplementation. 

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

News From a Fancy Bedroom

It took me a while to make a decision and I'm certain Anthropologie is going to come out with to-die-for sheets any moment now, but after much consideration I decided to go with these turquoise polka dot sheets from Garnet Hill.  From time to time I get a 20% off coupon and I waited like a week and could wait no more, I did luck out with free shipping.  I hope we like our new sheets!

In related news, you probably know this about me especially if you follow me on Twitter and/or Instagram but I get a little over-angry when certain bloggers do posts like how to style your bedroom end tables and they put out fresh flowers and delicate objects all snooty like this is how all bedroom tables should look all the time.  Especially bloggers I KNOW HAVE CATS.  Because you know if you have cats, you cannot do anything fancy with most of your table tops.  Because this happens almost immediately:

There is an alarm clock on my end table and it's attached to the back of the table with one of those cord cover nail things.  That's all that's on the table unless you want to wake up to it on the floor.  I just want to see these decorating blogger with cats real end tables.  It would be so satisfying.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Where I Talk About My Lady Parts

...I warned you.

I've been dreaded returning to get my annual gynecological exam because last year's was such a slap in the face.  I don't even know if I wrote about it and now, almost a year later, I'm willing to accept my part in the fallout but, still, jeez, read my freaking chart Doc.

Let me back up.

Like every year you go in and they give you a sheet of paper to fill out.  And it inevitably asks questions like do you have children, what form of birth control do you use, do you want children.  And even though I've jumped off the Reproductive Endocrinologist highway, if you ask me if I still want children, I'M GOING TO CHECK THE BOX.  Am I not supposed to check the box?

Because even though I was 42 years old, overweight, already had 2 operations for infertility related conditions, had 10 IUIs, have 2 new fibroids, the largest measuring 4cm, and had my appendix disintegrated by endometriosis, when my Gyn walked in the room she started talking to me about how IVF was an option to me if I wanted to have a baby.  She didn't even throw in donor eggs, it was just, oh you want to get pregnant, well, geez, you really should, you know.  I walked out of there stunned and a little pissed off.  Later I expressed to Brian that I think there's some sort of marketing/referral thing, the company is ginormous and I can't help but think there's an IVF clinic tied in there somewhere.  And I recognize it's kind of my fault for checking the "do you want children" box.  But this year do I have to make myself not check the box?  It's a little heartbreaking.  I wish the box said, "Have you exhausted all attempts at medically treating infertility?"  Yes, the answer is ab-so-fucking-lutely yes.

And the thing is I need to talk to my doctor.  I'm not ready to roll in there with a quiet pap smear and get out of there.  I'm having real problems and every time I bring it up, this will be the third time, I get the brush off.  I was told the first time, when it becomes a problem then we need to address it.  It ate my appendix, obviously it's a problem!

The past few periods I've had on the second day I have been experiencing a new kind of period pain.  I get this sharp pain in my lower left side that's so bad I have real trouble standing up and I usually yelp in pain.  Each time it happens I consider going to the emergency room, it's that bad.  I'm in pain for about a day, maybe as little as 8 hours or so, and then the next day I'm back to my normal regular awful period pain.  The can only assume it's endometriosis or a really bad fibroid (worse than I've ever had).  I want someone to talk to me about having a hysterectomy. 

I want to know why I wouldn't want to have a hysterectomy.  If any of my readers have had a hysterectomy and can give me some information, I would be very grateful.  I know hormones are an issue, how big of an issue are they?  Are they more of an issue than these terrible periods I'm having?  The last time I discussed this they mentioned Lupron and I don't want to go on Lupron.  I think having another myomectomy would be counter-intuitive at this point and I don't want ablation, I've heard it's painful and doesn't always work.  Why is hysterectomy not on everyone's radar?  Why is it never mentioned?  Is it because of the box?  Because I think everybody should know what you want isn't always in the cards and I'm okay accepting that but I still want to check the box.

Friday, August 01, 2014


I've been putting off this post for a while but I didn't want to confuse anyone so I just wanted to let you guys know the adoption with the boys didn't work out.  I don't want to get into the specifics about it due to privacy issues and not knowing who reads my blog but I will say the boys were great kids, it had nothing to do with them, but they were way more than I could handle, Brian was and still is crazy about them, but we are on the same page about our decision. 

We are still pursuing foster/adoption, I think one kid is the way to go for me, which is hard in the foster care world because most kids come with siblings.  I've thought about this so much and continue to think on it daily.  The one thing I realized in our experience is if for some reason this doesn't work out, I'm okay with it.  I have a new peace with my infertility.  That said I hope it does work out for us, I still long for the proper placement for us, I hope it will happen.

I've been putting off writing about it because I feel a lot of guilt (though trust me, relief trumps all) and I don't need a bunch of judgement regarding it.  It's really hard to know someone's experience unless you walk in their shoes.  We are all very different people.  What you can handle, I may not be able to handle, and the same in reverse.  This was the best way to go, all things considered, it happened on our first overnight so nothing was drawn out, they never lived with us, the trauma, I'm not saying it's not there, but I think it's minimal.  I've been turning down placements since then because the last thing I want to do is falter again and nothing has hit me with YES I can do that forever (one did but a different placement was found).  That said, if we get the right call, I'm in it 100%, and I really hope that opportunity comes along.